I'm Stubborn: A Teen Aberration Story

July 05, 2009

... people view this trait of mine as a bad thing, as a flaw on my part.

Stubbornness can be described as refusal to adapt one's perspective, or being reluctant to cave in to the views of others. It's having a concrete standing on a topic, and not letting anything stop you from thinking that way. And by most, stubbornness is viewed negatively, as an obstacle that prevents us from moving forward with our goals, our relationships, and our lives.

Stubbornness is my aberration.

I am hesitant to admit another person is right and even when the majority of proof shows me that I'm wrong, I argue to defend my point, no matter how hopeless of a cause. When working with others on a task, I push my own ideas forward, dismissing the thoughts of others. And when arguing with accomplices, I don't give up until I win. And thus, people view this trait of mine as a bad thing, as a flaw on my part.

But though my stubbornness appears to be a hindrance to myself and others, it is something that helps me succeed beyond the expectations of all others. My stubbornness helps me earn high grades in my classes, as with my persistence, I never settle for anything less than a perfect score. In group-work, I always push work on people, thus resulting in a better job done overall. And by always questioning views that are different than my own, I learn more about the topic I am inquiring about.

I have grown to level out my stubbornness. I attempt to listen to the opinions of others completely before immediately declaring them as wrong. During group-work, I try to have others assigned to specific tasks, and only focus on my own job. And in general, I listen to people before spontaneously jumping to conclusions and making judgments. While I tone down the negative sides of my aberration, I attempt to enhance the positive. I aim higher in grades and overall goals, always trying to surpass what I previously accomplished. I form a concrete code of values by sticking to my ideals and points. Thus, I have come to balance my aberration.

One specific case of my stubbornness dates back to fourth grade when I felt a certain answer to a math problem my teacher gave was incorrect. I forced my explanation on the teacher, insisting my solution was the correct one. Eventually, the teacher brought over the head of the math department, who confirmed my solution. Though I was right, the stubbornness I used to convey my opinion was uncalled for. I acted in an obnoxious manner, not letting the teacher skip the problem and move on to another. I was so rude that even my classmates were angered with me. The next day, students kept on showing me the golden rule of the classroom: “listen to the teacher”. However, I did develop a reputation of always having to be right. In this way, stubbornness is both something positive and negative in regard to my life. Yet I have come to accept it as a definite part of my life--a part of me that will stick to me no matter what happens, no matter how much time passes, and no matter what type of person I develop into. Stubbornness will always be my aberration.

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